In my work as a professional psychic and spiritual counselor I am frequently asked about soul mates; what they are, how to connect with them, etc. Many times people will tell me that they “think” their current partner is their soul mate, but that they aren’t sure. So they ask me to look at the energy surrounding them to confirm, one way or the other, whether the person they are in an intimate relationship with is, in fact, their soul mate.
I get this question so often that I thought it would be a good idea to give you my own definition of what a soul mate is, and then share my thoughts about why it can be highly beneficial to find yourself in a romantic relationship with your soul mate.
First, a little background. My own definition of the term soul mate is derived from personal experience and interaction with Spirit and the understandings I have come to as a result of that interaction. So, you will find that my definition differs from that of the traditional or accepted meanings.
According to dictionary.com soul mate is defined as:
noun – a person with whom one has a strong affinity.
Origin 1815-25 (based on the Random House Dictionary, © Random House, Inc. 2011)
noun – a person for whom one has a deep affinity, esp a lover, wife, husband, etc.
(Collins English Dictionary – Complete & Unabridged 10th Edition 2009 © William Collins Sons & Co. Ltd. 1979, 1986 © HarperCollins Publishers 1998, 2000, 2003, 2005, 2006, 2007, 2009)
These definitions are a little vague, however, so let’s look a little deeper. I went to Wikipedia.com to see what information they had on the subject and found some interesting tidbits:
“A soulmate (or soul mate) is believed by some to be the person with whom one has a feeling of deep or natural affinity, similarity, love, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality, or compatibility. A related concept is that of the twin flame or twin soul, which is thought to be the ultimate soulmate. In New Age spirituality, the ultimate soulmate is the one and only other half of one’s soul.”
From my interactions with many people, I believe the Wikipedia definition of soul mate is the most commonly held understanding for the term…at least in western society. But a lot of people believe it goes much, much deeper than this. I’ll address the concept of “twin flames” a little later in the book. But back to Wikipedia
The entry goes on to talk about two other contributors to the historical definition of the term soul mate, and I think they are worth mentioning here:
1. “In his dialogue The Symposium, Plato has Aristophanes present a story about soulmates. Aristophanes states that humans originally had four arms, four legs, and a single head made of two faces, but Zeus feared their power and split them all in half, condemning them to spend their lives searching for the other half to complete them.”
I think this is a little “far out” for even the most liberal of New Age believers to accept as being the literal state of our existence…and sounds more like mythology than reality, to me.
2. “According to Theosophy, whose claims were modified by Edgar Cayce, God created androgynous souls—equally male and female. Later theories postulate that the souls split into separate genders, perhaps because they incurred karma while playing around on the Earth, or “separation from God.” Over a number of reincarnations, each half seeks the other. When all karmic debt is purged, the two will fuse back together and return to the ultimate.”
This sounds a little more believable, and is closer to my understanding of the contemporary definition of what a twin flame or twin soul is supposed to be, but even this definition is hard to swallow in the believability department. However, it leads directly into why my own definition makes so much more sense, so I’ll go ahead and share that with you now.
First and foremost, I am a very pragmatic and reality-based person. A skeptic by nature. So, any concept I’m confronted with has to pass my believability criteria before I can accept is as a strong contender for truth or reality. I have a built-in bullshit meter. The Plato story above I just dismiss as bullshit. It’s simply not believable enough, out the gate, to even merit any serious research.
The Theosophy/Edgar Cayce concept is a little different. On the surface it seems _plausible_ that who or whatever created the universe, and all that resides within it, including all the many freaky “alien” life forms we encounter on this planet (think about the bizarre creatures hiding in the depths of our oceans and you’ll begin to understand why I used that term!) could have chosen to create humans as androgynous beings. However, the experience I’ve had interacting with Spirit, combined with my own intuition, tells me that each sentient being is in possession of it’s own, unique soul. Or rather…that each soul is in possession of one human body, in a given lifetime.
So, setting all of the information above aside, here is my definition for the term soul mate. Keep in mind that I light-heartedly call this “The Gospel According to Tracy”, so if my explanation resonates with you, great! If not, I’m ok with that, too.
Let me start with Kindred Spirits…
You know those people you run into in life and feel an immediate connection with? The ones where you find yourself saying “I feel like I’ve known you forever!” Well, there’s a good reason for that. It’s because you HAVE! These are what I call Kindred Spirits. Kindred Spirits are people that you have a bond or contract with across multiple lifetimes. You’ve agreed to show up in one another’s lives for one reason or another. To be a support, or to facilitate the learning of a life lesson, or just to play a necessary role. We have all kinds of Kindred Spirit relationships. Some people play lesser roles and some play more significant roles. You might be someone’s mother in one lifetime, their neighbor in another, and a sibling or best friend in yet another. And vice versa. But the bottom line is, you’ve agreed to show up for one another. Some of these _may_ be romantic relationships…but they are not Soul Mate relationships, and there is a distinct difference, which I will get into a little later on in the book.
A Soul Mate is someone who, like a Kindred Spirit, you have a bond or contract with across multiple lifetimes, but the connection goes much, much deeper than that. This is a uniquely romantic, passionate, best-friend and eternal companion relationship. Not only have you agreed to show up in one another’s lives…you have committed to seek one another out for the specific purpose of sharing your life with one another in a very special and intimate way. This, in my opinion, is the true meaning and definition of Soul Mate.
A Soul Mate is not a twin flame…because you do not share one soul. You are each 100% complete individuals, unique in your own gifts, talents, and abilities. But the two of you are so aligned in your thinking that you are compatible in every way, intellectually as well as romantically. You are both able to lead fulfilling, rewarding, and successful lives independent of the other…but when your energies are combined your life experience is powerfully enhanced and magnified in a way that most people do not experience as a single individual.
So, to be clear; All Soul Mates are Kindred Spirits, but not all Kindred Spirits are Soul Mates. You may have thousands of Kindred Spirit relationships but only one Soul Mate.
To be continued….I’d love to hear your feedback